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I have a 5 year old daughter who is an amazing kid but very stubborn with a temper. But lately she has been saying things like I will kill myself with a knife or I hate me and nobody loves me. It is very disturbing to me. What should I be doing??
My just turned 17 daughter can’t seem to recognize she is the cause of much of her own stresses. She blames everything on everyone else and takes it out on her parents with a great deal of anger and nastiness. She can talk to me about anything if it doesn’t involve her personally. But when it comes to the later she is pretty much non-communicative. Currently, she refuses to communicate with us about important details such as the colleges she wants to apply and the basic information we all need to make some important family decisions (deadlines, costs, scholarships, apps in general). She acts like a know it all but when we call her on it by asking a simple question or pointing out a simple fact she fly’s off the handle. Clearly this is because she doesn’t really have the answers or has not done the work – but she will never admit that. She hates her dad – probably because they are so alike – true litigators with tempers! HOW can I talk to her? Ask her questions? Have discussions without her getting angry and end up cursing me out and screaming in my face? How do I discipline without the fear she will just leave? She is braking my heart and all I have tried to do is help and be a supportive mom. Perhaps the mothers protectiveness can get overbearing (I give her that and work hard to let go everyday) but I don’t deserve to be treated like this. Again, she is braking my heart and her dad doesn’t make it easy. I find myself wanting to give up – walk away – more and more everyday. I am very tired and unhappy.
Hi I am a teenager in one of the most prestigious high schools in the country. Yesterday I skipped school, i am not someone who does this on a chronic basis and this is the first time i have ever done this. The reason that I skipped school was, I preferred to work on a personal project that has heavy academic ties with many of my classes. I got my class work, and did not skip anything that I would have trouble with on an actual assignment, I even at this point have no bad feelings that my mother is forcing me to tell my first period AP biology teacher that i skipped her class; as her reaction will undoubtedly be “ok well then I’m not responsible for helping you make that up because you skipped” my question is: is it wrong for me to feel offended that not only are my parents taking all actions listed in the section of your book about skipping school (grounded, cell phone confiscated, seeing teachers themselves, etc.) and in addition to that tracing my location, going through my texts, retrieving my phone internet and text history, relating this to unrelated things that were previously up for debate,and assuming me at fault (for other things not skipping school) as well as not listening to me when i try to debate my fault (about those items)?
My other question is despite the fact that I told my parents I had gotten the work that I missed and was actually doing something that was not just hanging out with friends or trying to cut class, my parents ignored these details as if they have no real value in the discussion. Is it wrong for me to assume that these do hold value within the discussion (please take into account that this project has taught me more than half of my teachers every have or ever will)? If so then please explain why.
DOS
PS I am sorry that the grammar is a little bit rough in some spots in my opinion I don’t think I did a very good job editing.
I have a 10 years old girl, she’s been talking and talking all day long, jumping in everybody’s business, she will ask what are you doing? why you do that? what are you cooking? she will ask tons of questions, or she will tell you million things, just non-stop, until I have to time her out. I know sometimes kids like to share and care, but she’s doing way way to much. The only time we can get piece of quiet is when I time her out, or she’s sleeping. Is this normal? Please advise.